I am a single black woman (no surprise there) and it took me a long time to be Ok with that fact, but now I am. After working on myself in a number of ways, I started to view the notorious claim made by single black women that pertains to black men in a completely different light. This claim, obviously, is that “there are no good black men left.” This idea is completely false, and I will simply explain why so many women are having trouble finding a “good black man.”
A woman wants a man that is accomplished, intellectual, sexy, has a good job, a car, good credit and even his own home. That is a great aspiration, yet these women never ask themselves the ever important question, “what am I bringing to the table?” You expect a man to do so much when you are not doing anything yourselves. That is completely ignorant. While you are looking for a man that will upgrade you, that same man is looking for a woman that is already on his level, meaning: NOT YOU. He wants a woman that is bringing the exact same thing to the table, so they can build something together, not so you can sponge off of what he has worked so hard to build. So if you are claiming that good black men do not exist anymore, the truth of the matter is that they are there (I’ve actually met some, and was stuck on one for a while, but at this point, I am not bringing as much to the table as he could and I’m OK with that), but they just do not want you.
These good black men have the same standards that you do, not to mention they struggle with trying to fight off gold-diggers, hood-rats and scally-whops, just like you try to fight off losers. These losers, which you seem to think all men are, already know the game. They know that the accomplished man is not checking for your broke ass so when they see the opportunity, they take it. That is why you only get hit on by tired men; because that is all you attract. So do not blame your inability to attract a good man on the fact that the market is weak, because the truth is that the good buyers do not want what you are selling.
If you want to attract a good man, you must first get yourself together. True, a man wants to be a man and protect and provide for his woman, but he does not want to save her from jump. You have to build to that point. If you cannot successfully take care of yourself, why would he want to take on all of your excess baggage? And don’t say “because I look good,” or any other nonsense like that because there are plenty of dimes that are on their A game. Just like you don’t want a broke ass man, he for damn sure doesn’t want a broke ass woman. No offense to my gender, but broke women are a liability, to a certain extent. So before you criticize one of God’s greatest creations, the black man, reevaluate yourself. For example, are you extremely high maintenance with weak job? For a man, that equals liability. You must first get yourself in order if you want to attract a certain type of man. If you do not do that, be prepared to be surrounded by hood ninjas for the rest of your life.
The primary concern is that the good black man wants a good black woman, and in my opinion, we have become more scarce than them.
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